What goes first when your time gets crunched?
I had a busy weekend. I spent 13 hours at LC on Friday, half of which was for boreintation, while the other half was much more fun and useful as we dug into Pastoral Ministry with the first ever classes at the Caskey School of Divinity. For those of you unaware, I am pursuing a Master of Arts in Pastoral Ministry. This will be a 36 hour program, added to my 35 hours from Southern Seminary, so, combined, I’ll almost have an M.Div., but on my resume I’ll have a Master of Arts in Teaching and a Master of Arts in Pastoral Ministry. I think people with two masters should get a title like people with doctorates do. I think I would like to be called, “Double-Master Palmer.” Or the more fitting, “Make Up Your Mind Palmer”! (It’s not really fitting for me…but it makes for good humor…you chuckled, right? No? At least an “inner smile”?) But that’s a couple years away. We have time to work on this. The best part of this is that a good 24-27 of these hours is specifically geared towards expository preaching from all across the Bible.
But I digress. Friday – 13 hours in uncomfotable seats. Saturday – 7 hours in those same uncomfortable seats (but with even better content than the night before!) and then Link’s birthday party from 4-getting home at 8:30. Today – Jackson woke up puking, Claire’s either been sleeping or screaming, we did laundry, we went swimming, and I went to Sam’s to get a new battery for my truck. And now, at 9:15pm, I am writing this and Leah and Lincoln are scrambling to put together an assignment that’s due tomorrow.
In the midst of making copies of pictures for said assignment, Leah said, “I wish we would’ve thought about this earlier.” To which I replied, “I did put it on my list this morning…but I haven’t looked at it in…….8 hours.” Oh, the to-do list. Right. That has a bunch of stuff on it that got pushed to the side by other stuff, even though I’ve been thinking about it non-stop.
And THAT, my friends, is when the thought hit me: When everything gets crazy and my time seems to be gobbled up by anything and everything, my tendency is to drop people first so that I can focus on getting all of my tasks done. OR, the tasks go because people present the most pressing demand, but my mind isn’t really with them, it’s still thinking about how to get the tasks done (which is how today went).
What is it for you? What goes first when your time gets squeezed?
Is it people? Is it tasks? Is it hobbies?
If you’re a minister (and even if you’re not technically), here are 3 things you CANNOT afford to drop when life gets crazy hectic (and I know this isn’t easy!):
1) Your relationship with Christ, which is grounded in time in the Word and prayer, through which you submit to the Holy Spirit, without whom you will have no real success in ministry.
2) Your relationship with your family (if you have one). At 28, I’m blessed to already be thinking that at the end of my life, whether I got a few extra things done on a Sunday afternoon doesn’t amount to a hill of beans compared to spending that same time with my wife or playing with my boys or taking Claire so Leah can have some rest from the demands of being a nursing mother.
3) The people you minister to. Again, in the end, your time invested with your people will have a much greater eternal significance than whether or not you got that Powerpoint to run just right or you made an amazingly awesome flier for the event two months down the road or a thousand other small, menial tasks that could probably be done well (or at least done) by less-busy others, without taking so much time away from your people. Yeah, they’ll notice the typos. They won’t be WOWed by the so-so looking flier. But they will look past all that stuff if they know you care deeply about them and their walk with Christ because you’ve shown it with your time. YOU are the one who ministers to them, not the programs or the lights or the powerpoints or the “et cetera.”
Notice a pattern? Relationships. Is it coincidence that God said, “It’s not good for man to be alone…”?
I…think…NOT. (What’s that from?)
Alright…. I’m going to get back to the to-do list (which this post was not on).
After I pray with my boys before they go to sleep.